I thought I might beginning telling yous a footling bit about my situation with MM. This can't be covered in one blog and many of you volition think why did you allow this go along for and so long, and believe me I ask myself the aforementioned question.

Little did I know he had already done this 30 years agone!!!

It all started just over 3 years agone. I continued with a guy, online of form, where else do all these people come from? It was Easter fourth dimension and this guy approached me and I initially thought what an idiot he's got a photo that was more side on so I couldn't come across him properly but still he didn't look as well bad from what I could tell, he kind of looked like Glenn Ridge (for those of you lot who are in my historic period subclass would remember him equally 1 of the hosts of Sale of the Century, for the younger readers well allow's just say united states sometime fogies know! LOL).

Anyway, it was a Sat night when he contacted me. I distinctly remembered as the next day was Easter Sunday and I was going over to my cousins place for tiffin and then I was telling her and showing her his flick. I didn't finish up receiving another message until the Tuesday morning where he promptly asked for my phone number, the next thing I know the phone is ringing and it'southward him calling to enquire what I was doing that twenty-four hours. Every bit information technology turns out I had that week off work, I explained to him that I was getting some quotes done and I wasn't free, he was very friendly and like shooting fish in a barrel going and he said that I could reschedule. I told him that he would just have to have the way I was looking every bit I had already had a shower simply hadn't washed my hair and so on he wasn't worried about all that, he was keen to meet me. I was due to run across him at 3pm at a local hotel as he had a 2pm engagement and would be free after that and didn't take any further clients that day.

I arrived first, it's a nice hotel with comfortable chairs in the lounge area. He messages me to say he'south just arrived and he was on fourth dimension. And so every bit I sit in that location I run across this gorgeous, alpine, well dressed guy approach me and I call up to myself, well this one looks a whole lot better in person. He sits down with his long legs outstretched and we immediately start chatting and for me information technology'due south like I have known this guy all my life. For me at least there's an instant chemistry and every bit all of us know that is extremely rare and for most of us we never become to experience that feeling. I think we talked for at to the lowest degree half an hour before he offers to buy me a potable as the fourth dimension just flew by. I child y'all not when he walked away I looked up to the Universe and said 'thank you' I truly felt that my search was potentially over one time and for all and that I was at the beginning of my last dating nightmare.

Little did I know at that time it was only the kickoff of a nightmare that I have only only moved on from.

Getting dorsum to the original date. This date went from drinks, to dinner, information technology went on for 10 hours, and so you can imagine there was connection, allure, I simply couldn't wait to come across him once more and I genuinely believed he wasn't faking information technology and was interested in me too.

I asked him how long he'd been divorced every bit his profile said that he was divorced and his contour name was 'looking to the hereafter', he had his real name on the profile and he has three grown up kids this too is the truth and he works in It too the truth. Clearly this guy is a novice when it comes to the lying office of advertisement he's divorced and creating profiles on dating sites.

He tells me it's coming upwards 5 years and he tells me that if my name had been (the name of his 'ex' wife) then he wouldn't of agreed to meet me equally he explained in no uncertain words that she's 'a nutter', she has some serious mental wellness issues. But I won't become into that too much you lot get the idea.

The next time I saw him was the Sunday night, he came over to my place and we enjoyed a platter and wine and of course some intimacy, it for me was then piece of cake to be in his company and I was so attracted to him. Win/win situation I think, I realise now it was far too early to be reading too much into information technology, just I had already been on the dating merry get round for some time and it had been a long time since I felt like this, only this time it felt different from the other times I thought I had met someone of import. This guy was different……

A few weeks ago I was looking through my local community facebook group when I saw someone put upwardly a post about getting fit past swimming. You run across this guy had only installed a swimming pool during this past summer and was putting it out there to people in the area that they could utilise the pool.

I thought to myself, what a nifty idea, myself and other people in the community responded to the post.

A few weeks had gone past and I didn't think besides much more than about it. I was home i Lord's day afternoon when I receive a telephone call from this guy on messenger asking if I wanted to come over as it was getting close to the end of summer.

I explained to this guy that I was doing some painting merely would try and go at that place equally it was a overnice day.

I managed to finish off my painting in time to become there in the afternoon. Now I know on reflection it was not such a swell idea to go to a foreign male's place when I didn't know him simply I didn't feel that I would be unsafe).

He opens the door and I get in, this guy lives in a unit of measurement and had a three seater couch on one wall and a single chair opposite, naturally I sit on the unmarried chair, he says 'y'all can come and sit over next to me'. I tell him I am comfortable sitting where I am and that I don't like sitting right adjacent to someone every bit it hurts my cervix. Anyhow, he's a dainty enough guy and I didn't become over there expecting it to exist a date!!! (I don't know how I was and then naive), this is what he thought information technology was!! Finally, I directly the attention to go for a swim, only by this stage I must admit it was beginning to cool down and this stupid puddle was not warm at all!! So I didn't really have much interest in staying at that place for too long. As I am about to exit this guy puts his arms effectually my waist and kisses the dorsum of my neck!!! OMG I get out of the pool simply like I say I didn't feel similar he was going to do anymore, he's just a lonely guy looking for honey.

I did finish upwardly staying for dinner and information technology was not unpleasant but I knew that there was no way I would be interested in anything more than a possible friendship with this guy. We all know in that location has to exist some kind of a spark for anything to fifty-fifty consider moving forward with.

The next day, I wake up and he's sent a bulletin with all this stuff on information technology 'I think my mum has sent an angel from heaven', 'hello my beautiful pond girl', I guess the truth is if I thought this guy was someone I was interested in it might of been OK merely it freaked me out big fourth dimension. I was worried Mr Swimming Guy might turn into Mr Stalking Guy, merely luckily this guy got the message pretty quickly and luckily for me 'I oasis't heard from him over again'…..

NEXT!!!! and there will be some more Adjacent'S as I am on the merry go round of dating, but the good news is that like Mr Swimming Guy and all the other tossers out there, it's forage for my stories.

Happy dating.

J xx

OMG I thought I would give the good erstwhile dating apps some other effort. Delight if someone with whatsoever sense can let me know why do I keep bothering thinking I will get a dissimilar result I would beloved to hear from yous!!!

I call up many of you (men and women) out at that place can relate to the latest round of dating disasters.

This is unfortunately what I found yet again.

Starting time of all, so you understand what my situation is like now, my two kids are pretty much gone and I am definitely not i of those helicopter mums who carries on about them not being hither and feeling similar I have to reinvent myself, I already have a full life including my kids but have lots of other things that continue in my life. However, when you spend every single nighttime either watching Netflix or going out alone (well not alone with gfs only not a partner) it gets a bit quondam, especially for u.s.a. extrovert types, we like a bit of time solitary but then we start to miss someone to talk to. Love my girlfriends but they tin can't really do what I want……

During Easter where a lot of united states have fourth dimension off work and become away, I had no plans apart from having lunch on the Friday with my friend I decided that night I would try another dating app.

Nosotros move onto the first date I had on the Saturday night, we arranged to meet at a local hotel for a drink and if y'all can picture this place was on a corner and had windows all facing out towards the road. I naturally waited within at a table, I am afterall a big girl who can walk into a pub alone. I run into this bloke walking back and forth and I was silently laughing to myself thinking I bet this is my date, I wasn't virtually to leave my seat to grab his attention. He finally texts me and I let him know I am within, certain plenty it'due south this same guy I saw walking back and forth, back and forth, (what an idiot), why didn't he just come inside as well!! Anyway, initially I thought he was OK but certainly non an instant spark, I tell this guy that I accept plans to learn Italian and alive there for a few months in the future, he'due south Italian groundwork and he says 'oh well when nosotros get married we tin can go and stay with Uncle so and and then'……..offset tick off the listing, I ask why his union broke upwardly 'oh well I missed going out with my mates'……2nd tick off the listing, thirdly, he about choked on his chardonnay when I told him I'd been to my outset gay wedding, third and last tick…..a homophobe, misogamist, desperado. Side by side …..

The second date I met this guy for java and initially again I thought he was OK merely again no initial spark. He certainly seemed a lot more intense, serious but open up minded. He was a widower, so no ex wifes to worry well-nigh coming dorsum onto the scene. Nonetheless, this guy still communicated and 'spoke' with his dead wife.

At present don't get me wrong, I am non someone who doesn't believe in the spirit world so I was quite interested in all this conversation. Even so it wasn't until subsequently that I thought yous know what I don't want him discussing me with the dead married woman. He besides tried to plant a big sloppy osculation on me when we left and I wasn't feeling it. And then as a issue he became another Adjacent…….

Number three, yes I met four of them so it's most washed…..Once more I thought this guy was a nice enough guy, he was very open and told me lots of stories about himself, including the fact that he'd merely only recently cleaved up with a adult female. I was concerned about this initially equally I thought is he prepare to simply move onto another relationship, his last human relationship had lasted well-nigh six months. Anyway, I did sit with him a couple of hours and thought yes he'southward worth a 2nd engagement. These days I just sit down back and wait for them to do the work, I have learnt my lesson trying to run across a man I really liked only to exist allow down time and time again and and so to find out all along he'due south married (that is a weblog for another fourth dimension)…..getting off runway hither……I will terminate off number 3 later on I tell y'all about number four.

Number four, I arranged to meet him on the Friday night, I met number iii on the Wednesday. I wanted to meet number four every bit I felt that he could of been a amend friction match for me. WAS I WRONG!!! this guy was a complete lunatic, he couldn't sit still, kept looking over his shoulder, he would ask me a question and wouldn't await for answers, he fabricated everything a joke, I thought to myself no wonder this guy is single he's crazy. I tell you lot that was an hour of my life I will never get back…….

Now nosotros come dorsum to number iii, he was very not bad to grab up with me once more, messaging me Th and Friday. On the Saturday morning time I got my hair washed and decided to message him to see if he wanted to meet for a coffee. He was bully to meet once more, we sit down downward and he starts talking and telling stories once more almost him!! Finally he starts asking me more than most my life. I do admit that even before I met this guy I was concerned he might have an issue with drinking. He tells me that he had lost his drivers licence not that long ago, he wouldn't divulge exactly for how long but I read between the lines and realised it was for at to the lowest degree 12 months, this was my offset tick of no. Secondly and this was the real clincher for me, I already thought he was besides needy subsequently wanting to find someone then quick after the well-nigh contempo human relationship. He started telling me about how i nighttime his ex pulled the 'race card' on him, y'all run across nosotros were talking nigh racism and he fabricated a annotate to this adult female nearly n_ _ _ _ _ _ s, his excuse is that he must of had a few too many wines. To make matters fifty-fifty worse her ex husband is African. I only couldn't believe that someone in this day and age would think that someone wouldn't have a problem with that. I told him point bare, 'well merely and then you know I would of pulled y'all up on it too'. So this my friends was my concluding date for a while and but as the title of my blog 'never heard from him again'.

On the Lord's day morning, I thought I would have i final look on this app earlier deactivating and some guy came through who goes advertising himself that he's looking for a relatioship. What a joke he started off asking OK questions, and then eventually information technology'southward 'are you a adept kisser, 'exercise I article of clothing lingerie', 'exercise I like to shower together', 'do I wearable pj's, because I don't LOL'. OMG what an absolute TOSSER as a consequence of these questions only one solution tin can be reached Deactivate.

So once more I am off the whole thing and accept now decided to have a go at learning golf, I had a lesson this morning and let me tell you GUY City, who knows mayhap amongst the golf playing men at that place might be at least i decent single guy who wants to live a normal life. I am non but going to try and learn to run across a man it'south for me as well, I retrieve it is skillful practise, a new challenge for me and social. The dating apps in all seriousness are soul destroying. I am so over everyone telling me that I try too hard and it will happen and to write downwardly what I want, I have done all that stuff. I stay off the sites for months and then get dorsum on every bit I don't encounter anyone in my twenty-four hours to solar day life, it'due south really really hard. I would love to hear from all of your with your similar stories.

Until adjacent time, happy dating, have fun. Thanks for reading tell your friends.

J xxxx

Well this seems to exist the new tendency these days in dating, the term 'ghosting' has get a normal part of the vocabulary when describing the magical disappearing act.

My question to all of you boyfriend daters is why does someone bother to waste material their time too every bit mine, chatting to me, texting me for over a week and then suddenly Aught!!!

  • GHOSTING THAT'S WHY!!!

The boldness is rampant amongst the dating sites. Information technology's but besides like shooting fish in a barrel to move onto the side by side person without any thought of how someone might feel. I know I wrote virtually this is my previous web log only seriously I was actually feeling a niggling bit excited that maybe someone was interested in getting to know me just without any caption disappeared (ghosted me!!). The sad thing is that in this past three-4 weeks information technology has happened twice, both by men who are in their 50's! It's about time they all grew up and stopped thinking nearly themselves. Exist an developed and tell me yous've lost interest or met someone else.

However, if these 'ghosters' reappear again after dating someone else who it didn't work with and then approximate what, I am NO SECOND PRIZE!!!

This brings me to terminal nighttime's appointment, I met this guy after work. He turned upward with bicycle helmet in paw later arriving on his electric bike, this is OK I am not knocking it. He then tells me all about his sailing adventures he's been on over the past 9-10 years, he shows me a picture of his view from his apartment (a very fancy suburb in the inner city). I recollect to myself this guy probably has some serious money, although I am not impressed by that stuff but it would be nice to go sailing I must admit. He and then announces he has to go as he has a meeting to nourish, again this is OK with me. At present unremarkably and I know this is probably not the right thing to wait merely xc% of the time I go drinks paid for, on this occasion notwithstanding, the bill was split. I guess these guys who go on multiple dates would become broke if they paid for everyone but seriously when this guy tells me virtually his fancy overseas holidays and living in a beautiful apartment the least I believe he can practice is pay for wine.

There's not really much more than to tell about this story other than the fact that I oasis't heard from him again so far but to be perfectly honest I couldn't requite a ……………..and I have for now again deleted all my dating apps, this whole affair is exhausting and I am so sick of all these timewasters.

Happy dating and hopefully some of you out there kickoff having improve luck than me. J xxx

I am going out of society from my life stories, merely I don't remember it matters too much every bit this is a story near dating.

Of course, I have again after not dating for a little while put my contour on a couple of sites. Ane of these sites has the woman making the offset motility after the guy has swiped and comes up as a match. I effigy that this is a adept concept that manner I have some sort of control about the whole thing. I got very excited equally I continued with a guy. I think he looks kinda hot and for over a week there was contact with him with telephone calls, texts. Last weekend was a three twenty-four hours long weekend and I fully expected that I would near likely meet this guy over the long weekend. So far NO GO! (it's Th now). He messaged me on Sunday and said he was would message me later, by the fourth dimension Midweek came I had heard nothing!!! I text him to say how-do-you-do I hope everything is ok as I haven't heard from you, this was sent at 11am (NO ANSWER). I and then call him at 7pm, he and then replies to this bulletin with 'hello distressing I missed your call, I am at my sisters and hopefully I volition talk to you tomorrow night'……well guess what I haven't bothered to reply to that BS respond. I tell yous what the hell is incorrect with him? I spoke to him iv times, we discovered we like the same music and travelling, he seemed really cracking and now common cold as ice. Why are people bothering to continue dating sites when they aren't serious? This is the million dollar question I would like answer to.

This now comes to my reason of calling this web log Cake, after being so pissed off nearly this other guy I put myself on another site that has a fleck more action as far equally letters go. I put it on final night and when I woke up this morning at that place were 22 messages from these kind of guys.

BLOCK HEADS

What a bunch of BLOCKHEADS, consequently as far as the 22 are concerned they are all BLOCKED!!! 90% are fake profiles, I can spot them a mile away, they are all from Usa, wanting someone to marry, widowed such a cliche ( don't autumn for that BS girls! ).

Anyway afterwards blocking all these blockheads, this afternoon I receive a message from a rather good looking guy who is an actual existent guy. Anyway I know I should of been working but I was wasting time communicating with this guy, listen you he approached me then obviously liked the look of me. As the chatting is going forth he then asks me practise I have any other pictures, I tell this guy that I will accept a look as I take only recently changed my hair colour. I then upload another motion-picture show of myself. He then responds with a statement nearly how he met a woman and when he met her she was size 24 and that on my profile I don't say 'what my body type is', I exercise have information technology downwardly equally boilerplate, so plain this douchebag can't read too as being shallow. I know I could practise with losing a few kilos but I am certainly no size 24. I of course took great offence to this comment as my photos tin can clearly tell that I am non that size. Likewise what the hell is the difference, if I am a expert person why should it matter? I reply with 'I am not size 24' and gauge what 'haven't heard from him again either!! But conspicuously he has been BLOCKED!!!

BLOCK my new favourite feature of the dating apps!!!

Happy dating out at that place with all the toads and timewasters.

Every bit I am sure yous can tell I am rather pissed off with these dumbarsed men!

The preference is definitely watching Netflix.

J xxx

Well after the debarcle of Greek God I thought I'd better requite this dating caper another go, no ones's knocking on my door!!!. So once more I went onto ane of those free dating apps. I motility onto Helm Snooze, you will find out why soon plenty why this guy had that nickname.

I am but resting my optics….

I think he's handsome with a full caput of thick salt and pepper pilus and a face that non merely a mother could love but rather a face up that you could be seen in public with. He was very bang-up to meet me and brand an impression. We met in a trendy inner urban center restaurant where he took me to dinner all paid for and already he's telling me all almost Malta and how he's going to bear witness it to me one day…..my mind starts racing thinking all sorts of possibilities.

Sometimes I practice dream most the whole ridiculous notion that someone volition pick me upwardly and accept me away from all this….ha ha ha!!, equally if. I sometimes remember of going back in time where our expectation was to be 1950's domestic goddesses, and enjoy the floating sensation of valium and escape reality that mode. At least you weren't expected to be mother, father, driver, counsellor, chef, gardener, hot lover, keep a full time job and be size ten. But I wouldn't change it for the earth imagine how terrible it would of been in loveless marriages with no manner to escape. Unfortunately for alot of women this is still the case even in 2019.

Later this date I receive the most romantic messages telling me my 'eyes shined as brilliant as the stars' OMG is this guy writing for Mills and Boon. As I have already said earlier I am a big sucker for the romance and of class loved receiving these messages, much improve than getting a message asking me 'do I shave or wax'? I go along pregnant to reply to those messages with 'exercise you wax your ballsac and fissure? simply I never do I only delete them, information technology would give me a good laugh, I think I will practise that the side by side time I go one of those stupid messages.

Anyway I met Helm Snooze on a Thursday and he wanted to see me the side by side night and the Saturday but I already had plans. Then information technology was bundled to get together on the Sun. Once more we met in the aforementioned inner metropolis expanse and I remember it existence a really hot day. He calls me as I was finding parking and asked me to await by my car, and so I did as he came around the corner to meet me he's carrying a huge bunch of flowers and a present…..OMG again me being the big sucker for romance was in heaven. He even had the good sense to bring a saucepan a water and so I could put the flowers in the automobile without them drying out. The present was an Ecoya candle, (what woman doesn't like candles?) the bulk of the states are suckers for them.

So Captain Snooze was starting to wait similar he could be a keeper. The weekend I met him was over a long weekend and there'southward a big festival in the city. Nosotros went in there and listened the music, he was very affectionate and was putting his arms around my waist and nuzzling into me. I tin't say that I was lament I was enjoying myself. I was starting to recall mayhap I might never have to go online e'er again….unfortunately not….if it ended at that place then this would be the end of my weblog! LOL.

Information technology'due south amazing how someone just can't seem to become enough of you and always and then slowly it starts to dwindle…..well of course this is the example here…only for now I will finish this story adjacent time equally information technology's another one like Greek God also long to keep with in one weblog.

Happy dating bask your weekend.

Thanks for reading

J 30

As I mentioned in the last blog nigh this guy in that location was some more to the story.

And so here goes, hope it's not too much longer….

To go along with the story, I met this guy close to a big sporting result where nosotros go a day off for a equus caballus race!! how practiced is that? Information technology falls on the outset Tuesday of November and lots of people take the Monday off and brand a long weekend of it. I met my Greek god shut to this weekend. He asked me if I had plans and I said no and he so replies 'well you practise at present'….I was very impressed he invited me over for lunch. When I arrive he has made all this succulent greek food, spanakopita, moussaka, greek salad how tin a girl resist a man who knows how to cook! I had a swell fourth dimension and stayed there for about seven hours, nosotros had lots to talk about and there was definitely a concrete attraction.

This guy was the one who afterwards existence married a long time non feeling particularly sexy or desirable made me feel that fashion past telling me I looked beautiful, smelt lovely stuff similar that, information technology was very nice to hear this.

There was a catch however to my Greek god, there were rules to be applied to this…..firstly he didn't want to talk to me everyday or have any sort of daily contact…..secondly I couldn't see him on weekends as he always had his kid over who mind y'all was 14 years erstwhile (what 14 yr erstwhile kid wants to hang effectually every weekend with their father?). I was able to see him on Sunday nights and of course because I was and so smitten with him I went forth with the rules. As time went on and I wasn't seeing him much, perchance once every 10-14 days I was getting very frustrated with the lack of time spent with him and he was an hour away and I ever went there.

Anyway, I was out with some girlfriends i night and I was telling them nigh him and showed his photograph to them. My friend Angela said 'I know that guy, he's been chatting to me'….you tin imagine how I felt, I was desperate to know exactly what sort of conversations he'd been having with her. I do have to remind you all that at this stage of dating I was extremely naieve and what I am almost to say will have y'all all thinking (what the hell is wrong with this adult female!) and estimate what I say it to myself these days….what was I thinking???

He had in fact told me that he was even so online and chatting to women about their experiences virtually dating as he had his own idea of writing a book well-nigh it, which in hindsight is exactly what I am doing at present, simply these are my own stories and silly me because I thought we was and then gorgeous didn't think too much about information technology until my friend said he was talking to her.

As it turns out, the conversation with her wasn't annihilation to worry about just general chit conversation not flirting. My sister in law however was furious about it all and she said allow'southward become him. I said what do you mean? She said let's set up fake profile, we will put a young attractive adult female with some sexy name like kittenxxx21 something like that. Then that'southward what she did and sure enough eventually this guy took the allurement and started chatting to kittenxxx21, she and then gave me her log in details and and then I started talking to him. The chat started off fairly normal but then after awhile it got around to asking well-nigh people he had met so naturally I asked so take you lot been dating anyone lately where his answer was of course no he was single but yous could modify all that…..

So he was caught chatting to someone else and maxim he wasn't seeing anyone.

So I then wrote him an email proverb that I had in fact been chatting to a friend of mine and worked out she was chatting to y'all as she was online dating and she said that you said you were single. I said I didn't understand what was going on every bit I thought we were getting along, we had and then much in mutual, similar humour, lots to talk about, attracted to each other so I was confused as to why he needed to talk to other women.

In typical male advice I of course 'never heard from him', these guys don't really know who they are dealing with when they meet me equally I can be a chip like a domestic dog like a bone and simply want an answer. I and then tried to phone call him to say we need to talk nigh it and of course he had an excuse why he couldn't take hold of upwards.

Later a while you only outset to forget about these guys who can't show whatsoever respect, that'south all any of united states want in life, respect, for someone to be honest, if you aren't interested tell me the truth I am a large girl and although it might hurt at the time at least I have been given respect and I tin can remember you with fondness and not recollect what an arsehole!!! As I have mentioned previously the aforementioned tin be applied for us women, some women are not very respectful either the term ghosting is a popular term for people disappearing. It's really non that hard to send someone a text later on a appointment to say 'information technology was lovely coming together you, adept luck with your search'. But for someone who has been invited into your domicile and you in theirs and so the to the lowest degree you should wait is a conversation and not be ghosted.

The interesting thing most this is that this all ended in the Feb-March of the year I turned fifty and my birthday is in June, so low and behold I receive an e-mail from this guy for my birthday!!! become figure…..so although he hadn't responded to my electronic mail he then sends me a birthday message.

He then too continued to every now and and so call me at home, I did talk to him and have java with him a couple of times, simply the electronic mail has never been mentioned. After a while I thought to myself what is the betoken of catching up with this guy every now and then? I am not even sure why I did. He also only ever calls on the landline so for all I know he could of left a few messages as I don't know anymore how to retrieve messages from there!! LOL I merely apply my mobile phone these days. This guy is 1 of those conspiracy theorists who but uses a landline phone he's worried virtually radiation, I guess he'due south got a good point we should all be careful almost the mobiles but seriously, this guy hasn't even got a smartphone, his phone program is still $10….what a loser!!!!

This is the end of this story. Hope you enjoyed and this guy I am sure is still sitting all alone in his piffling house being a available and loving it, non certain why he bothers going online he's definitely not serious about coming together someone. I think I already told you he's still got the same profile that's been there for five years. It starts off with the caption 'I'm the one your female parent warned you near'….I mean really what was I thinking even responding to that but I at the time found the profile rather amusing and thought he had a adept sense of humor which is what I love in men, I am someone who loves to laugh.

Happy dating and good luck to you all, promise one day yous find love in the ocean of toads and liars.

J xxxxx

Anyone who knows me simply laughs at me when I finish up going on a date with someone from a mediterranean background as my ex is from a Greek background. I do detect myself drawn to these kind of guys, non that it really matters what the background, but it's just funny that a few of them I accept dated have been Greek, Maltese, Italian; must exist my flawed perception of them beingness romantic that sucks me in!!! But as we all know romance is dead in the h2o these days so it doesn't matter where they come from, the bulk however oasis't heard of a dictionary to await up the significant of the word. (**Apologies in advance to all the gorgeous men out at that place that did in fact remember Valentines Solar day and are romantic, I do know they be as friends of mine have them).

I am not going to tell all of the story equally it's too long for one blog, I dated this guy for about three months. Not that you lot can say it was three months, the actual time spent with this bloke was probably only a couple of weeks. This was the start of the timewasters!

After the disaster of my online scammer (probably from Nigeria or who knows where they are these days) I decided to give it all abroad for a few months. I wasn't getting any attention on the site that the potential scammer was on anyway and I started to think maybe I had two heads or something. I didn't recollect I looked besides bad for a tardily 40's female person with all her teeth!! and a job.

The idea to try another dating site was put to me by my beautiful young tennis team mate one night when I was talking about how I hadn't been on one date in most 14 months of being seperated. She just couldn't believe it so she suggested this site that is free and let me tell you it was like goose egg else, I was getting messages left right and centre. Unfortunately most of them with heads that only their female parent's could love……I know yous are thinking I am hateful but seriously I have some sense of taste! LOL

At that place was one who especially caught my eye he was in my stance handsome with dark optics, olive pare and gorgeous!! We communicated for almost half-dozen weeks earlier I finally met him (I now know that I would never waste my time for six weeks before coming together someone!!), clearly this guy was talking to god knows how many other women. You definitely know the signs of what'south going on after so many years in this caper.

So, information technology was bundled to run across on a Sunday afternoon at 3pm. I arrived and he was already sitting there, when I came towards him he stood up and held my chair out ready for me to sit down, I was very impressed with this. The waiter came and I of form ordered a vino (allow'south face it, it was close enough to wine o'clock) and he ordered a coffee, when the order was made this guy felt comfortable enough to accept a little dig about me ordering wine with the waiter, I enjoyed that immensely, my friends know that I am cheeky by nature so I felt at ease immediately.

This date was going very well, later on about 2 hours he said he needed to go. As we left he opened the door for me and then walked on the street side (a very old fashioned and gentlemanly matter that men used to practice) and held my hand, I tell you I was in heaven. I am an old romantic past nature and this I am told is what gets me into trouble as I am dreaming well-nigh what happens in a Hollywood motion picture (Hollywood has a lot to answer for!!) and let'southward face it, it'south all a fantasy …..plenty ranting for now at to the lowest degree! ……anyway moving on…..he then walks me to my car and gives me a big kiss….. I felt smitten by this guy merely little did I know then that he is just another one who I 'NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN'!!! LOL Although there is more to the story, he was non quite a consummate never heard from him again and then I probably shouldn't say that but I will continue with this afterwards.

Until so, enjoy the weekend.

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Well allow's start at the get-go.

When y'all have been in a long-term marriage and experience similar a frumpy old housewife who hasn't had attention for years it's very easy to lose your confidence and think that you are no longer attractive or desirable to the opposite sex so when someone comes forth that makes you feel similar that again, it'due south hard not to go excited nearly the possibilities.  Especially when you thought that side of your life was over which I did and to exist honest I didn't even care and well-nigh women I talk to say the same thing, I take my hat off to all the people that tin make it last with one partner not an piece of cake feat in this mean solar day of 'I want information technology now' selfish social club.

And yes, I know this is probably non taking one for the team of sisters are doing it for themselves and that I shouldn't be worrying about being desirable or sexy when it comes to men only it is really for myself that I savour feeling this way and damn information technology all I similar existence told that I am beautiful and sexy although these days that'southward been a long fourth dimension since I heard that.

My ex-husband during this time didn't even alive in the country he had left with his numberless packed and me with our two children who at the time were thirteen and 16. They are at present 22 and nineteen and they have had their share of similar stories of 'never heard from him over again', god assist the young ones, if women our age are having a hard time information technology's even harder for the younger generation.  At least we had some experience of the erstwhile fashioned way of coming together out in bars, face up to face, this generation doesn't know anything dissimilar than social media and online dating and their own prepare of dick pics.  So much for flowers and chocolates and romance, the male species needs to be given a lexicon every bit soon as they tin learn to read with the word romance highlighted and put in a place where they tin can see it everyday.

And then, are you prepare? This is a tale that I am sure you have heard before. This is just the get-go of many stories.

When I started this whole experience of online dating, I was so naïve.  I started off on a site you lot demand to pay for where yous larn stamps, I paid for 24 stamps and six years later I still have near of them. I figured that because information technology was a site where you lot needed to pay, there may be a better chance of meeting someone sincere.

How this i works is you search profiles and transport a free 'buss' bulletin that are generic letters for instance 'I similar the look of your profile it made me grin' that sort of affair, the guy then receives it and he may answer with another gratuitous message or if he's really peachy he uses one of his stamps to message you directly through the sight, this postage stamp lasts for a month.   Or if he'south like most of them when you send a bulletin he completely ignore you.

This detail site was not practiced for my confidence at all every bit I sent out lots of free kisses and never got a reply from the majority, I started thinking maybe I've got two heads or something simply then I realised that they are the ones with the problem, if they don't want to answer then it's their loss!!

You would also recollect that perhaps these sites may exist ameliorate screened for potential scammers which I was falling for big time when a very skilful looking man said yes to my kiss, yippee finally some positive response.

He of course gave the typical story that us vulnerable women fall for when kickoff on the dating sites, he was working overseas, was coming to Australia in 3 months, his wife died and he had a nine yr old girl and of course sent me the well-nigh romantic emails (all on my private email at this stage) and was gorgeous.  My sleuth of a cousin thought he sounded but a fleck as well good to exist truthful but I on the other hand being new to all of this being vulnerable thought otherwise then I continued emailing him.  We searched him on facebook and it looked like a legitimate folio but she wasn't convinced and said those photos have been downloaded from google images it's a fake person, it looked so real to me.  I was at to the lowest degree smart enough to create an email address simply for this kind of corresponding and used a fake proper name but I suppose these scammers could exist smart plenty to find me if they really wanted to.  Anyhow, considering we were corresponding electronically and on messenger, I was the ane who caught him out.  This is how it happened, equally mentioned he said he had a nine twelvemonth old but then an e-mail came out where he talked about how both of his girls were doing well that made me suspicious.  Information technology was then arranged to instant bulletin each other then as this was happening one nighttime, I was asking various questions about his weekend when he said he was out with his daughter who I might add was a unlike name from the one he told me previously, I then also quizzed him about his other daughter when he said I just have the 1 girl.  I then ask him the question every bit to why did he say in his email that 'both' were doing well, I said who are yous and I am going to video phone call, so of course I am sure y'all tin imagine past now that he was some other one who I never heard from again.  I will admit that although I was loving the emails I would never in a meg years of given anyone money. This goes out as lesson to all women who unfortunately are still being bamboozled from unscrupulous scammers to never trust anyone y'all don't see face to confront.

The story continues…..happy dating.

Janine xx

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I want to share with you all that I accept been writing down these stories for at least the by 3 years fifty-fifty though this whole search has been going on for close to seven years! This is what I wrote initially with the idea of perchance writing a book but I retrieve for me who is definitely no writer doing this blog is a proficient manner to become the story out.  This was the original beginning of what I wrote so I guess I might equally well put information technology out in that location.

Well where does i begin when all of a sudden finding yourself single again later many years of marriage in your 40'south.

I know the 'internet' surely there must exist some decent normal guys out there!

I am hither to tell you that most of them are still like juvenile horny teenagers' men in their l's about fourth dimension they grew up don't you retrieve?

This story comes from my experiences in the dating globe they are all true and hopefully y'all volition go every bit much of a abdomen express mirth every bit I have because I tell you if I didn't laugh, I would cry.

The pursuit of truthful love is a long route to travel and possibly volition need to be travelled until I am in the nursing home.  Unfortunately for me I actually like men and dislike them at the same time hence the continual search and why I probably will never requite up.

With the discovery of cameras on phones well they have all go skillful in photography especially of their most prized possessions and equally for the videos well what a scream.  My own private porno collection.  I have enough of them to create a book as well as videos.

When I get notwithstanding another one of those pics, I remember oh well here we go again seen i of those before they all start to look the same subsequently a while and I remember how about sending me a photograph of the head on peak of your shoulders?

**Don't worry boys your secrets are prophylactic; I am non almost to embarrass anyone in that way.

The idea for writing this has come from my cousin who has probably not really wanted to be a sounding board we have had many a good express joy recounting the many times that I think I have met someone decent only then to never hear from him again without of course any explanation.

When I was speaking to her on Valentine's Mean solar day almost how the man in my life was more interested in putting a water feature in than spending the 24-hour interval with me or dinner the other stories came out once more most how I was speaking to some other one earlier in the twelvemonth who seemed interested and said I quote 'don't be surprised to receive random calls' only never to hear from him again either I laughed and laughed and she said you have to go started on that book write information technology all down and the catch cry of never heard from him again became the thought for the title.

This title says it all and to be fair, the championship could also be 'Never heard from 'her' again as it happens to men likewise.  I think the problem for all of the states is the internet is like a lolly store too many to cull from then unless someone walks in that door who blows your mind you just go oh that one lost its flavour, I'thousand bored with the taste.